In 2018, Joshua Harris kissed purity culture goodbye and called into question the evangelical sexual ethic, shared by Rob Bell and Matthew Vines, that
marriage makes it moral.

I was 30 years old and had (re)constructed my relationship with God, but I was still looking for the Bible verse, “thou shalt not have premarital sex”…and facetiously hoping the rapture would come before I lost every man’s battle, again.

As a single Christian, there were only two options for a healthy sex life: “don’t do it” or “don’t judge me.”

I judged, because the only examples of sex that I saw were rooted in lust, objectified women, and resulted in fear, guilt, and shame. Sheila Wray Gregoire and others were beginning to uncover the reasons why #metoo was rapidly evolving into #churchtoo, but I already knew…

I knew the time had come for me to choose between God and Sex. This book is my story of how I made that choice, and what I discovered along the way that would change my life forever!

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I sometimes listen to trauma informed sex therapists, even ones informed about christian purity culture.. but often they aren't 'insiders' or aren't really addressing the bible, they're just encouraging people to be free and enjoy pleasure more..

..what I think needs to be done is the 'tough work' of examining every text and explaining it well.

I think I've trawled the internet and your channel is one of the only ones saying what you're saying in a very studious and educated and biblically-informed way..

I’m having a moment right now, a realization that God and Sex were as absolutely different as God and Satan in my childhood learning....The separation of the two was total. I’ve just now had the thought that it’s possible the bringing together of the two is what will heal my own division from God.


Thank you for your research, especially for using context, which so many fail to do.

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